Am I Losing My Mind? Understanding Gaslighting in Relationships
Gaslighting is one of the most confusing and painful experiences someone can face in a relationship. It’s not just about being lied to—it’s about having your reality questioned so often that you begin to doubt your own thoughts, feelings, and memories.
Clients often say things like:
“I feel crazy, but I don’t know why.”
“They say it’s all in my head.”
“I keep wondering if I’m the problem.”
“I apologize constantly, even when I’m not sure what I did wrong.”
What Is Gaslighting?
Gaslighting is a form of emotional manipulation where someone causes you to question your perception of reality. It can be subtle—like dismissing your feelings—or overt, like rewriting events or denying things they said or did.
Over time, this can lead to:
Chronic self-doubt
Anxiety and confusion
Loss of confidence
Feeling isolated or emotionally dependent
Why It’s So Hard to See
Gaslighting often happens gradually. It can be especially hard to recognize when it’s coming from someone you love or trust. You may start to believe that you’re overreacting, too sensitive, or just not good enough.
But here’s the truth: Your feelings are real. Your experiences matter.
Therapy Can Help
Individual therapy provides a safe, validating space to untangle what’s happening, rebuild trust in your own voice, and begin healing. You don’t have to keep questioning yourself. You deserve clarity, support, and emotional safety.
If you feel like you’re losing yourself in a relationship, therapy can help you find your way back.